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ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
by Mary Sullivan - used with her expressed permission. Many people
ask me how they can contact Mary Sullivan, I'm sorry I don't know. I
lost contact with her.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make
it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her
mother took her to the kitchen.
The mother filled three pots with water.
In the first, she placed carrots.
In the second she placed eggs.
And the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil without saying a word. About twenty minutes
later, she turned off the burners.
She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs
out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed
it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she said, "Tell me what you see."
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. (You known the tone of voice.)
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did, and
noted that they felt soft.
She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the
shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg inside.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she
tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "So, what's the point, mother?" (Remember the
tone of voice.)
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity - boiling water - but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being
subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid
center. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its insides had
become hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the
boiling water...they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot , an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt
and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat?
Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial
hardship, or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my
outer shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a
stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water
- the very circumstances that bring the pain. When the water gets
hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of the bean. If you are like
the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the
situation around you instead of letting it change you.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you
elevate to another level?
How do you handle Adversity?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
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